For years my wife and I have suspected that our nephew who turns 15 in a couple of weeks might be gay. Not in the light in the loafers way, but he's always sensed that he's different from other kids, a bit socially awkward and has never uttered a word about a girl.
It's no biggee. We love him to death and don't give a rat's ass which gender he decides to sleep with. My wife's brother lived quite the gay San Francisco lifestyle for a while (she's convinced his marriage is a sham) and her oldest sister lived very bi-sexually for a while. I have an uncle who's been living with his male lover for as long as I can remember.
The straw that (perhaps) has broken the camel's back is that my s-i-l found 298 (by her count) gay porn images on his computer. I'm thinking, OK, if he's got a few on there he stumbled onto a site or went there on a dare. But 298? And no straight ones? Maybe his formerly gay uncle was surfing last time he was there, but my s-i-l deleted the images without noticing the download/access dates, so who knows.
Her reaction is surprisingly open. She's, of course, had her suspicions as well, but she wasn't any more upset about finding the images than if the would have been had they been straight hardcore. She's decided not to confront him with it, figuring that if he's into the images he'll know soon enough that she found them.
IF he is gay I hope that he feels comfortable to come out to us sooner rather than later. It's got to be tough at his age not to fit in and not quite know why. He's a big part of our family (if something happened to his mom it's in her living will that he'd come and live with us) and I want him to be happy. I hope he trusts us enough to know we'll accept and love him no matter what.
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i'm really glad for his sake that she's so cool about it. medusa's best friend went into a mourning period for YEARS and still does not accept her son's homosexual orientation.
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